Battered Women's Syndrome / Rapid Cycling Bi Polar
Oct 1, 2018 3:29:43 GMT -5
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Post by crazycatlady on Oct 1, 2018 3:29:43 GMT -5
Out of the 2 I have not yet decided which one I hate the most....
Bi Polar is one everyone here is most familiar with so I will briefly discuss the Battered Women's Syndrome...
I have been married twice.... both ended in divorce.
I was 16 when I married hubby #1 - the alcoholic.... He never hit me but the verbal berating and abuse was more than i could bear and I divorced him when I was 19. His verbal abuse did not end there though, it continued long into my second marriage, which in turn lead to far worse abuse. I had 1 child in this marriage, a daughter.
I was 21 when I met my second hubby, 22 when we married. The marriage began rough and only got worse. We were together for 20 years. 5 children, 3 daughters and 2 sons. When I say it was beyond anything you could imagine, believe me it was and one day I will open up about it all. I am new here and not quite there yet.
I will give one example.... I had my tubes tied in 2000.... in 2002 he beat me and while I was down would kick my stomach all the while screaming at me. "Maybe if I kick you hard enough the bands will come loose and you can get pregnant again"
Looking back I know why I stayed.... again a long story..... I am safe now. I left him in 2011 and put 2500 miles between us and plan to keep that many or more between us....
Battered Women's Syndrome is a nasty lil bugger that makes women like me find such men attractive, drawn to them.... but Lenore Walker wrote a wonderful book that helped me a lot....
Years of therapy, meds and hours upon hours of groups, chats, writing and agoraphobia later... here I am..... I recognize that I have these and try to always be aware of the kind of men I am drawn to (usually avoiding anything more than one night stands)..... because of this I avoid pretty much all types of commitments to guys....
I always HOPE to find someone special that will treat me right.... but am cynical at the same time....
Bi Polar is one everyone here is most familiar with so I will briefly discuss the Battered Women's Syndrome...
I have been married twice.... both ended in divorce.
I was 16 when I married hubby #1 - the alcoholic.... He never hit me but the verbal berating and abuse was more than i could bear and I divorced him when I was 19. His verbal abuse did not end there though, it continued long into my second marriage, which in turn lead to far worse abuse. I had 1 child in this marriage, a daughter.
I was 21 when I met my second hubby, 22 when we married. The marriage began rough and only got worse. We were together for 20 years. 5 children, 3 daughters and 2 sons. When I say it was beyond anything you could imagine, believe me it was and one day I will open up about it all. I am new here and not quite there yet.
I will give one example.... I had my tubes tied in 2000.... in 2002 he beat me and while I was down would kick my stomach all the while screaming at me. "Maybe if I kick you hard enough the bands will come loose and you can get pregnant again"
Looking back I know why I stayed.... again a long story..... I am safe now. I left him in 2011 and put 2500 miles between us and plan to keep that many or more between us....
Battered Women's Syndrome is a nasty lil bugger that makes women like me find such men attractive, drawn to them.... but Lenore Walker wrote a wonderful book that helped me a lot....
Years of therapy, meds and hours upon hours of groups, chats, writing and agoraphobia later... here I am..... I recognize that I have these and try to always be aware of the kind of men I am drawn to (usually avoiding anything more than one night stands)..... because of this I avoid pretty much all types of commitments to guys....
I always HOPE to find someone special that will treat me right.... but am cynical at the same time....
